Do you have goals for your home?
Darrin and I are officially closing and moving into our first house this week (!), and I’m SO eager to start crossing off items on my mental list of house projects. I’ve got my utility belt stocked with hammers, nails, paint brushes, and my remote to flip on the latest HGTV show for inspiration.
Poor Darrin is going to have his work cut out for him. 😉
Whether you’re renting or owning or renting to own, we all have goals for our home—mental lists of projects we’d like to see accomplished so that our home life is more enjoyable. Some of us can’t seem to stop adding to our home to-do lists, and for that we say YOU’RE WELCOME, HGTV.
Creating goals is important. Putting together a list of projects for your home is exciting.
But we all know how fast these HGTV trends come and go (I mean, is wallpaper back now, or what?).
Yes, let’s have some fun and shiplap the crap out of everything, even the dog. Repaint every wall. Make more space for your kids, your family, your friends. Hang up that new light fixture.
But let’s make sure we spend just as much time working on the culture of our home as we do the structure of our home. Making sure not only that the moldy furniture is replaced but that the guests who come and sit on that new furniture feel encouraged and uplifted. That the baby who will soon sleep beneath the nursery’s new paint color knows that room to be a place of safety and love. That the meals you serve on that new dining room table are meant to bring all people together—family, friends, and strangers alike.
What kind of home do you want to create?
Are there any particular values that you want visitors or family members to associate with your home? What is the core purpose of your home—for each member, for the household, and for those beyond the front door?
Once we move in, Darrin and I have decided to write our goals down as a way to hold ourselves accountable to following them.
Evaluating the goals you have for your home and the people who bring life to wherever you live can happen anytime—whether you’ve been living in your apartment for a few days or your home for a dozen years.
If you want to spend some time considering the type of culture you want for your home, I’ve listed a few prompts that I’ve found helpful below:
Goals For Your Home: 9 Prompts
* Name 3 practical ways that your home can be a source of love for those who are feeling ignored, unwanted, or worthless.
* List at least 2 concrete ways that you can use your home to bring to others joy for the next month.
* In what ways can your home offer peace to your family? Your neighborhood? Your different social circles?
* Identify areas or aspects of your home that cause you to lose your patience. What could be changed so that those places inspire rather than destroy your patience?
* Name 5 ways in which your home will extend kindness to those in your social circles (and those outside them!) for the next year.
* How will your home offer goodness to those who are suffering? In what ways will your home be a refuge from the storms in their life?
* List at least 3 ways in which your home will practice faithfulness for the upcoming month: faithfulness to each member of the household, to guests who will visit, and to the One who blessed you with this home.
* How will your home abandon aggressive, prideful, argumentative behavior and instead practice an alluring gentleness towards every member and visitor?
* How will your home instill and encourage self-control within every member of your household? Where freedom of emotional expression is united with the wisdom that accompanies self-control?
Answer these questions with every member of your household. Commit to creating a culture at home that is rich in love…patience…self-control…and gentleness. For yourselves and for others. Let the fruits of the Spirit be the badge that distinguishes your home from all others.
My list of projects for our new house is big. But my list of goals for the kind of environment I want to foster within my home is much, much bigger. And let me tell you, creating a fruit-of-the-spirit home takes a lot longer than a 30 minute HGTV episode. Just because you want them to be defining qualities of your home doesn’t mean that they automatically will.
We have to put in the work on a daily basis. The sweat the tears the joys the frustrations. But if we commit to doing that work–if we write down the goals we want for our home and hold ourselves (and each other) accountable–just imagine how amazing the before and after photos could be.
P.S. Creating goals for your home and committing to working at those goals on a daily basis is just one way of using your ordinary life in radically loving ways. Starting September 1st, the Sometimes Gracefully community is taking part of a weekly challenge series. And I want YOU to be a part of it! You can grab your FREE Cultivate Calendar and join the movement HERE! Let’s do this.